37. When you pretend you can do what you cannot do, you demean yourself and prevent someone who might do the job from doing it. Someone who might turn out to be a friend.
Epictetus taught that each of us must develop rules about saying yes, and, in actions, each of us must be careful about the circumstance—that an action be consistent with social good and the reason it is being performed. Then ask if the action is mere vice or not, and if it is attempting to interfere … More Marcus Aurelius, from Exhortations to Himself
Stop trusting your subjective judgment. Stop allowing your desires to make you a puppet on a string. Get into the present moment. Observe how things happen to you and to others. Notice what is cause, what is effect, and how things are changing. Think about how short life is. Forget about having been wronged. VII. 29.
When you wake up in the morning and don’t want to get out of bed, think about this: I am getting up to do the work of a human being. Why am I dissatisfied with doing the things for which I exist? Or do I exist for the purpose of staying in my pajamas and … More Marcus Aurelius, from Exhotations to Himself
Remember: externals cost. You must pay the price. You want what someone else has? You must pay the price and do what that someone did to get it. How much does a head of lettuce cost? If someone else chooses to pay the price, why are you jealous? Don’t be foolish. Question: What do you … More Epictetus, from The Handbook
If you want tranquility, focus. Isn’t it best to focus on what it takes to be a decent social animal? Such actions bring not only the tranquility that comes from doing well, but also the satisfaction that comes from focusing on doing only a few important things. Face it—most of what we say and do … More Marcus Aurelius, from “Exhortations to Himself”