37. When you pretend you can do what you cannot do, you demean yourself and prevent someone who might do the job from doing it. Someone who might turn out to be a friend.
8. Forget about controlling what happens; learn to wish that everything that happens happens just as it happens. Then . . . all will go exactly as planned.
XII. 1 All those things that you think will take you forever . . . you can have them now. If you don’t get in your own way. By that I mean, you may, if you can let the past be past, and trust that the future will happen, and focus on acceptance and justice.… More from Marcus Aurelius, “Exhortations To Himself”
When we are ashamed to confess the cause of our troubles, or when modesty compels us to conceal troubles, the passions have no outlet and begin to strangle each other. This is the cause of sadness and melancholy and a thousand fluctuations of a vacillating mind. It is held in suspense by unfulfilled hopes, by… More Seneca from “On Tranquility”
#51. The first question of philosophy is how to put philosophy into action. Take this for instance: “We ought not lie.” Good philosophy! Now ask a second question: “Why shouldn’t we lie?” Now, connect the dots with a third question: “How do we avoid lying?” What are the consequences of this? What are the contradictions?… More Epictetus, from The Handbook
48. The unthoughtful never look at themselves as the source of their own help or harm but rather blame everyone and everything else. The thoughtful, however, look to themselves as the source of help and of harm. People bettering themselves censure no one, praise no one, blame no one, accuse no one; they do not… More Epictetus, from The Handbook